Isaiah 9:6 For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.
John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
Read Matthew 11:19 The Son of Man came eating and drinking and they said here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners, but wisdom was proved right by her actions.
Read Luke 10:38-42 Jesus counsels to Martha on the importance of working for the Kingdom of God.
When we think of a counselor many times in society we are thinking of someone who is paid to give us counsel…such as a lawyer, or psychologist, psychiatrist…etc.
However, we also get counseling from our friends about our problems, usually we don’t pay them – even though sometimes their counsel is better than that of the professionals. A lot of our best counselors in life are older people…sometimes, simply because they have lived longer they have a much calmer way of thinking than younger people…their way of looking at things is viewed through the lens of experience…many of the things that seem like a crisis just are not as much of one as we think they are…many times they are but a “bump” in the road of life. Jesus is the ultimate counselor.
If we look at the qualities of a good counselor most of us are looking for someone who is
1.) able to keep a secret (trustworthy)
2.) able to give good advice (wise)
3.) compassionate and understanding(feeling)
4.) a good listener(attentive)
Now, if you have a counselor who fails in any of these areas it is really difficult. There is simply no point on which Jesus fails to be a good counselor. Sometimes when we have a friend who is a counselor they don’t always give the best advise, isn’t that so?!! It depends on the maturity of the friend, and also on the nature of the friend. Sometimes, the friend may advise you to do something that is actually not wise at all, but is an indication in their mind of them being “on your side.” A lot of the time a friend may get angry “on your behalf” when someone else has hurt you.
In those cases you need to pray that God will give you the wisdom to seek out the best counselor for the situation at hand, or that God himself will give you the counsel you need through his Holy Word.
Remember that when Jesus was being tempted in the wilderness what he used to defend himself against temptation was scripture. That is an awesome lesson of wisdom to all of us. Just about every problem known to man is covered in scripture one way or another.
A lot of times we hear people say, “oh, that doesn’t apply to today!” or “they didn’t know about all the modern technology we have today!” Well, whenever someone says something like that remember that even though we don’t live the same way there are some truths that are simply true and timeless.
If you always take the time to ask yourself…what is the most loving thing that I could do toward that person in this situation…and ask God to show it to you…then you will know the Wonderful Counsel of Jesus Christ….and will make a good decision. It may not be the only good decision, but it will be a good decision. Frequently, there is not only “one” good decision in any given situation, but several, and a good decision in the same situation may be different and not so good if the people are different in the same situation.
For example…sometimes a good decision requires “tough love” and sometimes it requires “gentle love”. In either case, the key is “love”.
The important thing is to remember that God has standards of behavior toward others and it is to deny yourself, and follow him in loving others.