Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.
Read Acts 8:9-25 9 Now for some time a man named Simon had practiced sorcery in the city and amazed all the people of Samaria. He boasted that he was someone great, 10 and all the people, both high and low, gave him their attention and exclaimed, “This man is rightly called the Great Power of God.” 11 They followed him because he had amazed them for a long time with his sorcery. 12 But when they believed Philip as he proclaimed the good news of the kingdom of God and the name of Jesus Christ, they were baptized, both men and women. 13 Simon himself believed and was baptized. And he followed Philip everywhere, astonished by the great signs and miracles he saw.
14 When the apostles in Jerusalem heard that Samaria had accepted the word of God, they sent Peter and John to Samaria. 15 When they arrived, they prayed for the new believers there that they might receive the Holy Spirit, 16 because the Holy Spirit had not yet come on any of them; they had simply been baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus. 17 Then Peter and John placed their hands on them, and they received the Holy Spirit.
18 When Simon saw that the Spirit was given at the laying on of the apostles’ hands, he offered them money 19 and said, “Give me also this ability so that everyone on whom I lay my hands may receive the Holy Spirit.”
20 Peter answered: “May your money perish with you, because you thought you could buy the gift of God with money! 21 You have no part or share in this ministry, because your heart is not right before God. 22 Repent of this wickedness and pray to the Lord in the hope that he may forgive you for having such a thought in your heart. 23 For I see that you are full of bitterness and captive to sin.”
24 Then Simon answered, “Pray to the Lord for me so that nothing you have said may happen to me.”
25 After they had further proclaimed the word of the Lord and testified about Jesus, Peter and John returned to Jerusalem, preaching the gospel in many Samaritan villages.
This is the story of Simon the Sorcerer. He thought that he could buy the gift of God with money. Peter told him that he needed to get right with God and put aside his bitterness and become free from sin. Simon was trying to have God by his own standards, and not live by God’s standards. The thing about having God in your life, is that you cannot chose to accept some of his word, and reject the parts you don’t like. Even when society wants you to believe that if you chose God’s way, then you are just being mean!
We must do everything with love towards each other, and nothing in hatred. However, do not get confused loving someone does not mean that you have to be okay with everything they do and think that everything they do is good and correct. That kind of thinking does not lead to a good relationship with anyone. On the contrary, it will lead to bitterness and resentment toward the other person. Bitterness and resentment eventually will lead to hatred. That is why God wants us to be forgiving toward others, but again, we do not have to agree with their every action as being right, in order to love them. Healthy relationships allow for a difference of opinion.
God allows us to follow our own way, our own opinion, but whenever we do this, we get further from God, instead of closer to him. That is our choice…God gave us this free choice. Just as we draw closer to the people we love whenever we are united with them in thoughts; we draw closer to God when we follow his way of doing things.
When dealing with people we have to have an “agree to disagree” ability on some issues. Sometimes an issue needs to be set aside for a while and more information gathered then revisited. The thing to remember in dealing with God is that God has all the information already and has already determined the best way for people to be in relationship with him and with each other. We, here on earth, never have all the information.
People make mistakes and wrong choices through their lack of knowledge of God, or just willfully choosing to sin. Jesus said, in Matthew 19:19 Honor your father and mother, and love your neighbor as yourself. If you love yourself, then you need to be honest with yourself as to what your faults and sins are and confess them to God.
We do not have to confess all of our faults to others; they may not understand and may be judgmental and condemning of our faults. People are very frail, emotionally, and we tend to be unreasonably judgmental toward others in their wrong doings…even though we all have wrong doings of our own. Many times the person being judgmental just doesn’t have the correct understanding of sin, forgiveness and love…another way to look at it is that they may not be spiritually mature yet. Sin can be kept between ourselves and God and left at the altar of our confession and repentance.
We do not have to unburden and shout our specific sins from the roof tops and tell the world.
Though depending on the sin, some things may need to be addressed to another person who is involved by way of apology to them…that is making amends with them as far as possible.
Proverbs 28:13 He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion.
Remember, God’s forgiveness is complete and total…we can freely unburden ourselves to God and walk away from the altar knowing that he loves us and understands us… that he has all of the information about our guilt or innocence in every circumstance. God is not forgiving us without understanding the totality of our sinfulness.
The thing is that in order to confess our sins we first have to realize in our hearts and minds what they are. A peculiar thing that I have found as a growing Christian is that my realization as to what my sins are grows as I grow. Some things that I have been sinful in doing either haven’t bothered me enough to address it, or I have not realized that it was a sin at all.
Psalm 19:12 Who can discern his errors? Acquit me of hidden faults.
That is kind of what the Bible verse means that talks about trying to get a splinter out of someone else’s eye when you have a big old fence post in your own eye. If you cannot clearly see your own sins to deal with them rightly, then how in the world are you going to be able to accurately figure out what someone else’s sin is and how to deal with it. Another way to see that verse in more common terms would be like the “blind leading the blind”…it just doesn’t work…you both just bump into everything!
Luke 6:41 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
God is wonderful to reveal our sins to us a bit at a time so that we are not overwhelmed with how awful some of our actions are, in God’s eyes. That is one of the most wonderful things about God’s love and viewing God as a Father to us…he is not in a hurry with us. God has a lifelong plan for each of us and wants to mold us into the very best person that we can be day after day, year after year…drawing us ever closer to him.
All we have to do is to act in faith and faithfully believe in God and that God knows what is right and wrong. We have to trust that what God says is right is actually right, and what God says is wrong is actually wrong. We also have to study God’s word and talk to God so that we can come to understand for ourselves exactly what is right and what is wrong in God’s eyes…and how we can best live out our faith.
We need to stop making other people’s sins our business…and focus on our own. Whether someone drinks, smokes, cusses, dresses scantily, lives with their boyfriend, or girlfriend…those things are not our business to tell them about…unless they are a person who is saying that they are within the body of Christ…then as a fellow Christian who loves them it may be that there comes a gentle way to introduce the subject to them and remind them of God’s way being the way they have decided to follow in their lives and that they are off the mark.
However, not every fellow Christian needs to butt into other Christian’s lives and discuss these things…you have to be in a relationship with that person that is close enough for your words to them to be considered loving and to be accepted. You cannot just randomly walk up to someone in your church whom you don’t have a relationship with and start telling them what they are doing wrong in God’s eyes. All you will do is alienate them from both you, your church, and possibly from God…you will be seen as a hateful and judgmental and condemning person…not as the loving person that you intended to be. If someone is not calling themselves a Christian then you cannot hold them to God’s standard of living.
Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
A person’s sin is always between them and God, not between them and us! It is possible that God has not yet revealed or convicted that person about their sin being something that needs to be taken care of yet. So we cannot go around like a sledgehammer banging them over the head with it!
This is a huge problem in Christian circles…we all want to go and fix all the world’s problems by shouting out…”That’s wrong! That’s a sin! They shouldn’t be doing that!” If we take a look at how Jesus handled things we can see that other than him booting the money changers out of the temple…he was always very gentle and kind in dealing with people’s sins. We as Christians need to remember that! There are no people in this world who have ever and I do mean ever, been hated, or harassed into loving God. Hatred and condemnation only gain more hatred and condemnation.
Proverbs 3:30 Do not contend with a man without cause, If he has done you no harm.
Sometimes when we represent what God says is right in dealing with others we do it in the most wrong way possible…making the person feel that they have committed an unpardonable sin by going on and on about a specific issue will not lead them to repentance and into relationship with God. It is more likely that they will feel rejected by both man and God. Haven’t you ever done something and felt that it could not be redeemed so you said, “To heck with it then!” and just continued in the same path feeling that nothing could be done about it?
Proverbs 10:12 Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.
Our goal as Christians should be to bring others to genuine repentance and into a closer relationship with God, so that they can then bring others to genuine repentance and into a closer relationship with God…and so on and so forth! Our goal is to become united in our relationship with each other and with God.
1Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Challenge: Get a jar, or some sort of container and make it a bank that every time you sin by trying to ignore God’s standard you must put a coin in the bank. When the bank gets full, then you give the money to a Godly cause (not yourself!)…Remember God’s standard is a standard of love! Sometimes the need for love in a person’s life actually trumps the letter of the law….that is what grace is about…loving someone and showing them love when they or we don’t deserve it at all!
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.